Using Tropes in Romance Novels: How to Make Them Work For You

Using Tropes in Romance Novels: How to Make Them Work For You

November 14, 2023
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Using Tropes in Romance Novels

Romance readers love a good trope. They expect you to be using tropes in romance novels. They are an essential part of being an indie author writing romance! If you’re curious about what tropes are, why they’re important, and how you can make them work for you…keep reading! It’s all here on the blog. 🙂 

Interested in a list of over eighty romance tropes? I’ve compiled a HUGE one for you—let me know if there are any you think I’ve missed!

What is a romance trope?

Tropes are one of the mainstays of the romance genre. Many people confuse them with cliches, but they are very different!

Tropes are universal experiences that can help guide or shape a story. Just because a trope has been done a million times, doesn’t mean it can’t be done again. Cliches, on the other hand, are tired ideas or phrases that feel overdone.

When done correctly, tropes help characters reach their HEA (happily ever after) in a new and fresh way. They can be archetypes, thematic ideas, relationships, or even small plot beats (ever heard of “just one bed”? One of my favorites!). They are fun to play with and even more fun to read. 

Why you need to be using tropes in romance novels

One thing is ALWAYS true when you sit down to read a romance: the characters will get their HEA (or HFN—happy for now). There’s something magical about starting a book and KNOWING where it will end up…but not having any idea how the characters are going to get there. 

Tropes can bring the same comfort. Tropes matter to romance readers. Readers are very familiar with them and want to know what they are before they begin reading a book. Have you seen the book graphics on social media with a book cover and little arrows telling key facts about the story? (I’ve linked to Lillian Lark’s Instagram post about her newest, Hoarded by the Dragon, in case you need an example.) These always have a trope or two (or three!) mentioned. 

Using tropes in romance helps to fulfill reader expectations, just like HEAs do. 

Also, chances are…even if you set out to write a book without using any, you would probably end up including some anyway! They’re just really wonderful ways to describe relationship dynamics, plot points, or thematic elements.

4 Tips for Making Tropes Work 

How can you include tropes in your novel without making them feel tired or overdone? Using tropes in romances is easier than you think! Keep these four tips in mind when plotting your novel:

  1. Don’t overdo it. Don’t use a million tropes just because you think it’s what you’re “supposed” to do. This can start to feel a lot like romance card bingo and less like a fleshed-out story with emotional arcs. Yes, tropes are fun and readers love them, but they need to work for your characters and their journeys. Don’t throw extra tropes in there just because you want to appeal to a group of readers. 
  2. Give it a twist! How can you make a trope feel fresh? If you’re writing a billionaire romance, can the billionaire be the heroine (the billionaires in romances are typically male)? Can your enemies to lovers story happen on an alien planet? Can your two characters (love interests) arrive at a happy ending that subverts typical reader expectations? Look at recent bestsellers in the Kindle Unlimited charts and see if you can figure out what makes the tropes in each book unique. I mentioned earlier the “just one bed” trope—recently I have seen social media posts talking about a variation called “just one horse” when two characters are forced to share a horse for a long period of time. Same idea, but with a twist! 
  3. Work with combinations. I suggest plotting out the basics of your novel with your main tropes as a focus. Then, think about where you can introduce others as micro-tropes to enhance your story. They need to make sense for your characters though. If you’re writing a romantic comedy, you want to be careful not to throw in a dark romance micro-trope that doesn’t match the tone of your manuscript!
  4. Keep the focus on the characters. At the core of romance stories is the character journey. Readers need to see them grow and change internally, regardless of the external plot or tropes. Don’t get so caught up in using tropes that this part of your novel takes a backseat. Your characters should be genuine and drive the story. “Cardboard characters” are characters who aren’t well-rounded and aren’t given any depth. Be sure that when you write your story, you are giving each character the space to grow, change, and fall in love—regardless of any tropes present in the novel! 

Popular Romance Tropes

There are so many romance novel tropes out there! When you are using tropes in romance novels it can be overwhelming to try and decide which will work best for your story and your characters. I hope this list of over EIGHTY tropes helps!

A Note: Why I Don't Use "Reverse" When Talking Tropes

You may see the word “reverse” in front of many of the tropes here on other lists or on social media. I will not be doing that, and you shouldn’t either.

Adding reverse to tropes genders them, and reinforces a heteronormative view of romance books. When an author says “reverse grumpy/sunshine” that author means that the female main character is grumpy and the male is the sunshine. That reinforces the belief that women are “supposed” to be more positive. How does using reverse reinforce gender stereotypes? How does it exclude members of the LGBTQ+ community?

I also see this a lot with the age gap trope. When an author says “reverse age gap” it typically means that the female main character is older than the male. What would we use for an LGBTQ+ romance? Ask yourself why it is worth mentioning who is older in this trope. The same relationship dynamics are still in play!

“Reverse harem” is another very popular trope online right now. I prefer the term Why Choose because “harem” has racist undertones, and also is a word without a gender. It doesn’t need to be “reversed” to work as a trope. It is simply a book with multiple love interests. 

I know that these terms are popular (I see them all the time on social media!) but I would ask you to really think about why it is we feel the need to gender certain tropes. If we continue to do so, we only perpetuate the notion that romance is for certain types of relationships. 

Remember, tropes are supposed to be universal, which means they are genderless.

Another Note: Subgenres are Not Tropes

Subgenres of romance are different from tropes. Think of subgenres as categories for books. Different subgenres could include: 

  • Historical Romance
  • LGBTQ+
  • #OwnVoices
    • These are stories where the characters and author share a marginalized identity. Examples could include: race, ethnicity, sexuality, gender identity, or disability.
  • Romantasy
    • Keep reading for tropes commonly found in this subgenre!
  • RomCom (Romantic comedy)
  • Contemporary Romance
  • Erotic Romance
  • Religious
  • Paranormal
    • Keep reading for tropes commonly found in this subgenre!
  • YA Romance 
  • Regency
    • Yes, regency romance could also be categorized under historical romance, but because SO MANY books are written about this particular time period it is usually mentioned separately. 
  • Dark Romance
    • Keep reading for tropes commonly found in this subgenre!
  • Scifi Romance
  • Western Romance 
  • Mystery Romance
  • Suspense/Thriller 

Classic Romance Tropes

These classic romantic tropes appear in practically each subgenre of romance. Think of them as the most popular tropes for those who write and read romance. They are all easily adaptable to whatever story you are telling.

  1. Forced proximity (I know I’m not supposed to pick favorites…but this is mine!)
  2. Love triangle
  3. Friends to lovers
  4. Enemies to lovers trope
  5. Second chance romance
  6. Opposites attract
  7. Grumpy/Sunshine
  8. Fake relationship
  9. Fated mates
  10. Forbidden romance
  11. Mistaken identity
  12. Instalove
  13. Age gap romance
  14. Work or Office romance (This could be either a boss/employee romance or focus on work rivals.)
  15. Arranged marriage
  16. Famous love interest (You will see this in rockstar, movie star, or celebrity romances.)
  17. Slow burn
  18. Sports romance (Hockey has been huge in 2023!)
  19. Secret relationship
  20. Scoundrel/Rake in love (These terms are typically used in historical romance, but the trope can be applied to any genre. Think: a main character, or MC, who doesn’t want to settle down.)

Unique Romance Tropes

These are tropes to keep using if you love something just a little different. They are still tropes readers want (and are very popular!), but may not be quite as popular as those above.

  1. Sibling’s best friend
  2. Step-sibling 
  3. Holiday romance
  4. Impossible love (Note that this is different from forbidden love. There is something in these stories that make it impossible for the two MCs to be together…think different time periods, one is a ghost, etc.)
  5. Secret identity
  6. Epistolary love
  7. Marriage pact
  8. Amnesia
  9. Secret baby
  10. Trapped in an elevator (This doesn’t have to be an actual elevator…it’s any situation where the MCs are trapped in a small space together for an undetermined amount of time. They could be snowed in during a blizzard, stuck together on the side of the road, etc.)
  11. Road trip
  12. Runaway bride
  13. Sworn off love

BookTok Romance Tropes

These powerful romance tropes have appeared all over BookTok and Bookstagram lately! This doesn’t mean they don’t fit in other categories here, but I thought it would be fun to have a list just for popular tropes in romance novels found the most on social media.

  1. Billionaire romance
  2. Omegaverse
  3. Why Choose
  4. Royal romance
  5. Secret admirer
  6. Small town romance
  7. Bet or wager
  8. Dark academy or Academy
  9. Fairy tale retellings
  10. Just one night

Dark Romance Tropes

Dark romance is a romance story with darker, more mature themes. These books still focus on falling in love and have a HEA, but they usually do come with content warnings.

  1. Mafia romance
  2. Motorcycle club (MC)
  3. Revenge
  4. Alpha male
  5. Bully romance
  6. Stalker
  7. Noncon or Dubcon
  8. Criminal main character
  9. Taboo
  10. BDSM

Paranormal/Fantasy Romance Tropes

Paranormal romance is a mix between speculative fiction and romance. The romantic conflict is the main story, but there are certain paranormal or scifi elements present.

Romantasy, or fantasy romance, is a story set in either a low- or high-fantasy setting where the romance is the main conflict or story. If your plot is more about an external conflict, then you aren’t writing romantasy! You’re writing a romantic fantasy.

  1. Monster or alien 
  2. Shifter (These are so popular that they get their own line even though they could fit with the monsters above.)
  3. Vampire (Vampires have always been popular in romance!)
  4. New girl/guy in town
  5. The Chosen One 
  6. Beauty and the Beast
  7. Magical academy
  8. Fated mates (I know it’s listed above, but it’s SO important to this subgenre I had to include it here!)
  9. Dystopian society
  10. Important Quest
  11. Different worlds
  12. Time travel
  13. Found family
  14. Breeding/pregnancy/knotting

Popular Micro-tropes in Romance

These are smaller details, plot elements, or character traits that appear frequently in novels, but aren’t going to completely guide or shape the story. I think micro-tropes are really fun!

  1. “Who hurt you?”
  2. There’s only one bed
  3. Just one horse
  4. “Good girl”
  5. Caretaker
  6. Forearm descriptions (each time a MC rolls up their sleeves!)
  7. “I’m no good for you”
  8. Main character leans against the wall and crosses his/her/their arms
  9. MC1 stands over MC2 in a doorway
  10. Nicknames
  11. Overhearing how they really feel
  12. Innocent loaded touches (Pride & Prejudice hand flex, anyone?)
  13. “I didn’t have anywhere else to go”
  14. Irreverent senior citizens 
  15. Ticking jaw muscle
  16. “The hell you will”
  17. “My ____” (wife, man, partner, etc.)
  18. MC wearing a henley
  19. Caught in the rain
  20. The pet hates everyone except the love interest
  21. Forehead kisses

Ready to Write Your HEA?

I’m Kaitlin, an editor for indie romance authors, and I’d love to talk with you about your latest manuscript! If you are in need of an editor who loves tropes, true love, and can’t get enough of happy endings, send me a message!

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